Friday, May 29, 2015

Banks of the Tamasa




I am self-publishing my very first book, 'Banks of the Tamasa'. This book is the retelling the story of Sita from the classic Indian epic the 'Ramayana', from a woman's point of view. This book will be out in June 2015 and will be available on Amazon in both kindle and print version. I hope that you will all read my book!

About the book

Banks of the Tamasa is a dramatic retelling, from a woman’s point of view, of a revered Indian epic that has been told and retold for thousands of years. In a daring departure from the Ramayana, first-time novelist Vandana Nittoor portrays a woman who achieves an extraordinary transformation into a person who determines her own boundaries while discovering a sense of purpose and inner peace.
Initially, this story of Sita, the wife of Rama, follows the original epic. Abandoned in the forest by her husband, King Rama, Sita is taken in by the sage Valmiki who offers her refuge in his hermitage, where she gives birth to twin sons. Though Sita will spend the remainder of her life there, the Ramayana says little to nothing about the quality of Sita’s life, the teachings of Valmiki, or her experiences in the hermitage. As recounted in the original epic, it seems as if Sita is resigned to her fate and will live out her last days without joy or fulfillment.
In Banks of the Tamasa, Vandana Nittoor gives voice to the experiences of that nearly forgotten young woman. The Sita portrayed in this novel is a woman with courage and confidence who overcomes formidable challenges to achieve inner fulfillment and self-realization. As brought to life in this novel, Sita is a woman who—while remaining a loving mother and actively participating in the lives of her young twin sons—ultimately masters the art of living purposefully and joyously!
An inspirational story about the great possibilities of one woman’s life, Banks of the Tamasa has a timeless message that will resonate with all readers – about embracing, with kindness and gratitude, the life we have been given.


Monday, May 18, 2015

On Writing!



I am reading a book on Buddhist philosophy, which emphasizes repeatedly upon selflessness. I am enjoying the book that I’m reading!

Recently I was asked if I was hesitant about promoting myself? I said “No, not if I believe in what I’m promoting!”

Yet an unexplored question sprang inside of me – was I being self-absorbed?

I enjoy writing as much as I enjoy painting as much as I enjoy cooking meals for those that I love, as much as I feel deep satisfaction when as an accountant I reconcile the balance -sheet!

 Expression is inevitable! Everything existing in nature has a way of expressing itself! It’s as essential as breathing! Yet when is much – too much?

When the question of my comfort with self-promotion was presented – I was uncomfortable! I belong to the generation when people simply did what they did, they did not do things because they desired attention on Facebook, Twitter or What’s App!

Yet I enjoy reading and sharing nuances of my own life on social media. I take great delight reading postings of friends and family and love looking at pictures in their moments of happiness and joy. I also share vignettes of my own life with a community where I feel cared for – with words, kind words in that!

So have I gravitated towards self-absorption without being aware of it?  Am I egotistic? Am I becoming one amongst those exhibitionists that I thoroughly dislike?

The answer is yes and no! A ‘small’ sense of self is good for family and community, but self-love is what leads to selflessness. Attachment is the nutrient that guarantees survival – like that between a mother and child. Yet even this seemingly divine love can dance between grasping and denial!

Ego is hard to discard! Even in harmless expression that seems natural one feels – fulfillment, discontent, joy or shame!

So I too will stumble often, as I try to embrace the middle path, the balance, the just enough, the right proportion of self–expression! Sometimes I may be too much, sometimes I may be too little but the intent is to aim for just right!

I cannot embrace humility nor can I deny the self at every moment in my life!

However, the only thing I will do is to embrace this kind woman inside of me who at times feels it necessary to walk through life without breaking a few eggshells! I wish to tell her that she’s al right! Living is walking on eggshells, at times breaking a few and at other times bouncing right off those pesky shells!

The words of Rainer Maria Rilke comes to mind, “I’m too small, yet not small enough to make each moment holy!”

Here’s to allowing ourselves our transgressions and simply living!


Monday, May 11, 2015

The Dance, a short story!

Perhaps it was the grey blue sky and the way the rocking chair stood by the front door, unoccupied, vacant, rocking gently on a Sunday afternoon! Perhaps it was the giant bushes filled with flowers, peering in from the windows and casting shadows upon large baskets filled with fresh laundry to be folded! Perhaps it was just that her chores would not be done, no way, never, in every point of time her very breathing seemed to create additional ones and on and on!

Either way, she gently pushed away the cup of tea and stood up with effort, pushing her wrinkled hands, laid flat with fingers splayed against the wooden table! Perhaps it was time to step out into the garden!

Meanwhile, the young neighbor sprayed himself with cologne as he hummed and whistled! First he parted his hair one way and then another, unsatisfied he ruffled it and shook his head smilingly! She loved his hair! She said so often! The blue grey day with looming shadows was perfect! The smile of the flowers caused him happiness! The candle light dinner organized in the corner of the Italian restaurant, the song of the opera, the soft music of flowing wine, he was sure! “Will you marry me?” he asked himself in the mirror. “Yes”, he replied smilingly brightly as he pressed his lips upon the cool surface of his own reflection.

He stepped out, did a jig and slid behind the wheel! Ah! Mrs. Old Lady was out in her garden, he waved, she didn’t notice, he drove away smiling! Mrs. Old Lady turned around; she only saw the rush of his car! “How rude?” she whispered! Perhaps he hates having an old lady for a neighbor, she thought and that set more thoughts in motion!

Perhaps he hated the color of her windows! Perhaps it was the grandchildren that visited over the weekend and caused a ruckus in the garden! Perhaps it was because she had accidentally forgotten to mail him a card for Christmas! Perhaps it was that old rocking chair by the door that spoke of resignation! Perhaps he no longer liked chatting with her! Perhaps it was Mrs. So and So down the road and her innumerable rumors! God knew what was being said about her!

She had seen them the young neighbor and Mrs. So and So, chatting by the side of the street! Perhaps the whole neighborhood disliked her! Sometimes in a rush to get to those doctors, her face was scrunched and she was too hurried to wave out or chit- chat! Oh! Did they all imagine she was rude? Oh! What was she to do?

Mrs. Old Lady sat upon her rocking chair and fell asleep pressing her tired and worried head against the same thoughts that felt comfortable!

Young Neighbor, returned! He drove slowly! He turned off his car and sat limp behind the wheel for a while! Tears were flowing down his firm young cheeks and his eyes spoke of sadness. He pulled out the ring from his pocket once again and cried even more hard! Suddenly embarrassed, he stepped out of his car and dragged himself to his front door. He saw Mrs. Old Lady on her rocking chair! He did not notice that she was sleeping and he waved out again and once again she did not respond!

“It is hopeless!” he said as he entered his home. He slumped upon the couch and lay still, frozen and weary! Perhaps he was unlovable! Perhaps it was just that he was not good enough! Perhaps it was how he dressed! Perhaps it was his home that was untidy or that his garden that was not pretty enough! Perhaps it would have been polite to go out and play with her grand kids the weekend before! Perhaps it was Mrs. So and So, she may have told all of them how vain he was and they had all believed it! His girl; she had said that she liked his hair! Yet she had refused! Well even Mrs. Old Lady seemed to dislike him! Ah! There was hope no more!

Mrs. Old Lady woke up from her nap! She was rested! She felt the day to be beautiful! Her body was energized! Ah! She would complete those chores and then she would feel wonderful! She stood up to go inside! There was something glittering by the road! She walked slowly towards it!

A ring! Ah! Maybe he was to propose to the nice young girl she had seen him with! These youngsters! Mrs. Old Lady picked up the ring and knocked on Mr. Young neighbor’s door!

His eyes were filled with sadness and his cheeks were wet with tears!

“Oh! Honey”, said Mrs. Old Lady! “Well the loss is entirely hers! Who in their right mind would turn down a good- looking fellow like you? A handsome man with a tidy home! She turned you down! She is clueless and she will come back crying! But I warn you don’t take her in! I always felt that you could do so much better! Look at that pretty brown hair! Who could ever refuse that?”

Mrs. Old Lady placed the ring on the young man’s table. “I have some left over pie, and I can make some tea,” she offered! They communed by her kitchen table. He thanked her and felt lighter as he left! He was lovable after all!

Mrs. Old lady, smiled, she was lovable too! How silly of her to worry herself tired!

The blue grey sky whispered to the smiling flowers in the garden, “Thank God the day is done! Perhaps tomorrow she will start with a whistle and he will be filled with sorrow! Perhaps he will find love and think himself lovable! Perhaps she will run into Mrs. So and So and she will be full of sorrow! Perhaps she will say she’s sad because I am grey blue! Perhaps, he will say he’s happy because of you smiling flowers! In the meantime I plan on wearing orange tomorrow and I know you will wilt and die pretty soon!”



Monday, May 4, 2015

Friend Me - A Facebook Story!

She wants to be my friend? A certain Amania Zakaria!

I friend easily! I love people! Nitwits are my favorite kind, they made life amusing and entertaining! But kind lady, I don't even know who you are and in this age and time friending strangers is ill advised! It’s like saying 'boom' in the airport; you get arrested and put away!

Coming to that, there's a special that’s going on for women! Women who are put away are entitled to three meals served to them, can pick up a leisurely activity and do not have to worry about laundry or driving those free-boarders to school! So next time life is weighing heavily on you, take a taxi to the airport and say 'boom'!

I love social media; I'm finally hooked on after several years of observing from the corners! By the way while I was in the corner I was cooking, cleaning, doing laundry, reading stories and organizing playdates for my two infants! For those who poke fun at my antisocial behavior or my lacking texting skills, I was being what back in the day they called 'responsible'! But don't worry your pretty little heads about that! I know spelling in hard!

So now, I'm on the social scene once again, wishing cousins on their anniversaries, keeping tabs on friends, posting paint by numbers and showing how well I stay within the lines! I'm happy but I am scared! Mostly because of creeps! Random strangers wanting to befriend me, cause I walk around in my tee-shirt reading 'Friend me -I'm real easy!' 

Well, I'm not easy and I'm not easily friend able, but those who call me friend know they can count on me forever! Its called being there and caring! Not possible for one human to be there for 800 friends I imagine! 

We live in the footnotes of the universe, perhaps forgotten by the Gods because we smell bad and are melting too many glaciers! Your life is precious but not so precious that you stick it in my face and ask me for love!  This especially applies to those nincompoops, those bootleggers who claim to have studied in my prestigious college and extend their hand in friendship, because I went to 'mechanic school' and am now a fore-man in a trucking garage!

I might be blowing this out of proportion! But if you Amania Zakaria want to be my friend, punch in a fine note, tell me that you are related to Fareed Zakaria and that after befriending you I might have a chance at an interesting conversation, some entertainment and amusement of my liking - a bit of brain fodder! Now that will make things easy for you and less scary for me!

By the way, I'm a grown woman now! I love specials and I'm not afraid of calling you out!